Your most effective tool for sharpening your leadership skills is to develop your capacity for self leadership. Developing Self-directed impulses (Grace directed works too) is a critical step on this path.
Take loving inventory of all your internal parts — the different voices, urges and fears that make up your inner landscape.
Engage in respectful dialogue with each of these aspects of yourself. Let no voice go unheard, Honor all your parts.
Notice when grace happens in this process — calmness, compassion, confidence, clarity, connection, curiosity and more. It is helpful (and joyful) to have a coach in this endeavor.
Parts work is one of the most powerful tools for personal growth available. It helps us identify parts that over-function or talk too loudly. It also helps us listen to the internal parts of us that need more air time.
This is a model for dealing with others in a leadership context and in everyday relating as well.